Do not speak too quickly. Many people speak too quickly, either by over-enthusiasm or nervousness. It is important if one wants to make a good impression, to speak more slowly. This advice is particularly important when we pass a selection interview or when we meet someone for the first time, two situations where nervousness and enthusiasm can help accelerate our speed without that we are aware of. Learn to use silence and pauses in your speech to score points or seek attention from your communication partner.
* Avoid jargon. The use of technical terms and learned words are never very effective in impressing others. The use of jargon has the opposite effect, that is to say that we go for someone who seeks to display his knowledge and we are able to essentially remove the other. So we create a distance between the person with whom we communicate and ourselves. However, it must avoid falling into the opposite side and use too familiar terms or street language. The use of correct language is always accessible and an effective strategy.
* Check the height of your tone. Interpersonal communication is done through three dimensions: the verbal, nonverbal and … paraverbal. Lesser-known dimension of interpersonal communication, the paraverbal combines several characteristics of the voice, the tone and pitch, speed, rhythm, cadence and silences. Many women speak in a tone of voice was very high (eg, soprano), causing the people around them do not take them seriously. It is important in situations of persuasive communication, lowering the height of his tone of voice. A loud and acute betrays nervousness and excitement, while a low voice and put forward the peace and assurance. It may take a little practice, but in general it is possible to lower the tone of his voice a half octave.
* Check the volume of your voice. Men tend to increase the volume of their voice when they want to persuade or influence the other. A speaker box can be perceived by others as a person and a person shouting, crying is never pleasant. We must therefore monitor the volume of our voice.
* Beware of empty phrases. The “uh”, “you know”, “biennnn!”, “Aaaahhh” and other expressions of this kind often furnish our spoken language. They are used as links, as moments of reflection or as witnesses of our or our hesitation bother. The first step is to identify them and how best to do is ask someone to save us when we’re talking (a lecture, a telephone conversation). Or, leave you a long message on your answering machine. You’ll see these empty phrases we use to fill the “gaps” in our thinking and our communication. It should then work to replace them … silences.
* Watch your language. There is, for most workplaces some dress. But there is also a certain level of language. We are not talking to a customer like talking to a friend or family member. Always start address as vous a person in a work context. If your working relationship you and your protagonist allows you to do it, you can gradually use a more familiar name. But even if you tu a colleague, always be respectful and courteous. Always use correct language, avoid bad language and never use profanity in a work context. When you’re talking to a woman in a work context, and even if that person is young, preferably using Madame Mademoiselle. The term lady is neutral and can be used with a young adult without risk of offending.
Appearance
* Have good appearance and handsome. In many cases, people judge by the monk’s habit, and in many other cases, the clothes make the man. Be nice suit and handsome. Women have long known, wear a nice cup increases self-confidence and people see that confidence along the beautiful outfit. It is not necessary to spend lots of money to dress well. But the work has its costumes and you have to recognize them. You will rarely see a senior dressed badly. It can be dressed casually, but his place is always neat and communicates its status and power. In addition to the suit, he must ensure his posture, stand straight and face the people with whom we communicate. It takes a good eye contact and hold it without stress. Avoid becoming round, look elsewhere or even to fix the floor when we talk to others.
* Bring the head up. Body language is very powerful and constantly communicates information about us and too often without our knowledge. Keep your head up and right. Avoid leaning position of the head position that can connect mannerisms, hesitation or even looking for approval.
* Watch your body position. Avoid crossing your arms in front of your chest, which is generally perceived as a sign of closure or retrenchment. You may communicate that you are on the defensive or difficult to approach. Stay right where you sit. A person “sprawled” on his seat or leaning against a table to communicate a lot about herself (recklessness, carelessness, lack of energy, lack of interest, lack of empathy) but not that it is attentive and control itself.
* You must care for its accessories. You can wear a suit or a dress very chic but if your accessories are worn or torn, they contradict the message of your clothes. So avoid damaged or mismatched suitcases, shoes dirty and wrinkled coat.
* In terms of Fashion Jewellery, moderation and sobriety have also tastes better. Professional attire accommodates little jewels, but jewels chosen for their simplicity and quality. The bracelet of your watch should be metal or leather and be in a neutral tone. Avoid flashy bracelets and accessories too colorful.
* Avoid certain types of piercing jewellery. Avoid wearing religious symbols (crosses, medals, etc.).. If you are a woman, avoid flashy earrings or falling. If you are a man, do not wear earrings.
* Dress one notch above his current job. It is recommended that you dress for the job that we would get rather than on the jobs we currently hold. In fact, your manager will present and much easier to imagine yourself in the job for which he might be tempted to give you a promotion.
* Take care of the details. These are small details that contribute to our loss: the coffee stain on the shirt, the salt on the shoes, the decline in trousers that seam, etc.. Some say you should never attend an important meeting without a spare shirt (to replace the dark circles of perspiration) or an extra pair of low (in the case of a mesh).